Unpleasant Rant

I'm sorry.   This rant is going to be confused.   There's a lot of confliction here.  I'm working it out as I type.   I'm not ranting about politics - don't care about politics - this is about the "culture" of some male-sub-peoples. 

Yes, I got into an argument with another boy, at a private event.   It was held by a friend who is a fellow officer, and not exactly liberal - so WishToKneel haz no ideaz how teh otter boy waz invited.  This rant is mostly from the things he said.   But also from some things I've been seeing, that are really making it hard to figure things out for myself. 

And I've been hearing both sides of this kind of thing for a while - but what I hear and what I see are two different things.   And as someone in a profession where observation is the thing - I'm starting to think the culture of a lot of male-sub-dom is skewed more towards the "blind acceptance" side than the "be yourself" side. 

I respect the opinion of a Domme.   I respect your Domme's opinion, as a fellow sub or boy or whatever we are.    I'll even respect your opinion, even if you are being snotty about it.   I'm the type of person who will respect someone period.  But respect is NOT blind acceptance.

I am NOT FemDom (not the way you seemed to define it while you were busy telling me that I'll "never get a Domme"), and I will not change my orientation or my personal beliefs because a dominant female loudly proclaims her "truth".    Or because you trumpet it for her.   

And seriously.   Who says "get a Domme"?    Aren't they supposed to get you?  

I am not the kind of boy to kiss the ground every single female walks on, and parrot whatever beliefs I think will ingratiate me with the latest woman with attractive photos that I've seen.  

But.   Anyway.   Uhm.   (Ranting, right.   Ranting.   Focus on the rant, not the irritation and now apparently questioning your submissive worth.) 

Apparently I'm not a "real sub" or a "real boy" if I'm not a social justice warrior waving the flag of Tumblr or twitter feminism and worshipping any youtube rant any woman ever has made about how worthless I am for being male.    And I'm supposed to hate-flame people like Blaire White, and accept any belief espoused by an attractive FemDom or female Dominant as if it were holy writ.   And God help me if I don't "love" every post by every female ever on my twitter.  (I don't even know why I have one.) 

I had a LOT of issues when I first started here.   Still working through them.   I lost a lot, including my first Domme, because I wasn't the right kind of "boy".   I lost my self respect for a while there, and I'm still finding pieces of it scattered all over.   I have a good partner (work partner, not the other kind) who's lifestyle and helps. 

I don't need your freaking judgement on my worth as a boy.   I don't need your pissyness (and really, what boy or man is happy about being "pissy"?!) because I don't agree with your philosophies and politics, or the politics and edicts of your Domme.

I'm still figuring out who I am, and what I am in this lifestyle.   And how to link that with the other me.

But I know damned well what I am outside of it.   And I'm not the type to just accept someone's views and edicts because they're Dominant.    Or because their Dominant is a Dominant. 
So stop sub-shaming (or boy-shaming?   need a word here, help?) me because I don't have the "right" beliefs to be a "good boy".    Not having a Mistress has nothing to do with my beliefs, politically or ethically.  

And changing your belief system in order to "get" a Mistress?

That sounds like a personal problem.  You should get that looked at. 

Or maybe that's just the culture of male submission in my area. 

If it is?   

Sorry, not sorry.

W2K 

Cheater Boy's Brownies for Mistress - Easy Recipes for Service submissives

1 Box of Fudge Brownie Mix
2 Large eggs
14 oz (one medium bag) of caramels
1/2 cup of evaporated milk
     (Just a good boy note - seriously, there's a difference between this and sweetened condensed
         milk.   Don't try and get clever - you'll wind up needing an entirely new set of kitchenware.)
1/3 Cup of Vegetable Oil
1/2 Cup of Filtered water
1 Egg Yolk 
1 Cup of Chocolate Chunks (chunks, not chips) 



To separate an egg yolk from its white - you can either use a cheap silicone toy that they make and sell on amazon for $5...or you can learn a new skill. 

And seriously, who doesn't want a sub boy with new skills?  >.<

Crack the egg in half carefully in the middle, width wise, and gentle roll the yolk back and forth between the two pieces, letting the white drain a little more with every roll.   Be vewwwwy gentle...(you're hunting wabbits) - - - or you'll break the yolk and have to try again.

Preheat the oven to 350.   Make sure the metal grate is in the middle rack in the oven.  

Spray down at 9 x 9 (for thicker, chunkier brownies) or a 13 x 9 (for thinner, chewier brownies)

Now blend the eggs, water and oil (preferably in a large Kitchen-Aid - if you don't have one use a whisk and a loooot of elbow grease.    It will work out your arms and give you nice pretty forearms for Mistress to cuff.   Trust me.  

Or it'll make your arms hurt and possibly cause tennis elbow (aka, lonely male in basement elbow).  But probably not.  Probably. 

Now get your mind out of the gutter, and whip the mixture.   Once the mixture is beaten to a slight froth and a uniform golden color, fold into the (cheater) brownie mix.   Fold it with a silicone spatula, not a whisk.   If you don't have a silicone spatula that hasn't been used on your ass - then next time buy one just for cooking!   (And behave more often.)

Pour half of the mixture into the bottom of the pan and put it somewhere away from the heat. 

Now pour the evaporated milk into a medium pan, and slowly fold in the caramels over a low-medium heat.   Keep the mix constantly moving, and lower the heat if you see any bubbles, or heavy steam.   Use a silicone spatula and constantly fold.   Once the mixture is melted evenly, pour slowly and gently over the layer of brownie in the pan.    Drizzle if if you have to, but keep the two layers as separate as possible.  

Pour on the last of the brownie mix and smooth carefully.    Place in the oven, and bake for 20 minutes.    Check the surface of the brownies for a finished texture - if nothing, then increase by five minute increments until the surface of the brownies looks finished.   It should be between 30 and 35 minutes total - checking every five minutes is a tool used because every oven holds heat differently.

Take out and set it aside, away from the heat, with the pan on a cooling rack.  

Once cooled to a warm (rather than hot) temperature - push the chocolate chunks down into the top layer of the brownie gently.    Give it another few minutes to cool further - and then cut carefully into 2" x 2" squares and serve with milk, hot chocolate, or cider.  

Mistress' Real Hot Chocolate - Easy Recipes for Service submissives

So, yes.    This one takes a little work.   If you are blessed enough to have a Mistress - you're blessed enough to consider the "work" as an offering and something pleasant.   If you think it's a chore...you probably need to do a little mindfulness work.   Or maybe talk it out with your Mistress.   (and hope she doesn't have a whip.  ^.^)

3 bars of Lindt's dark (at least 72%) chocolate or
    3 bars of Hershey's Chocolate and 2 Tbsp Dark Baking Cocoa
1.5 Cups of Whole Milk
1 Cup of Heavy Cream
     Marshmallows


Melt the chocolate in a bain marie (double boiler, to the non cooking peoples) slowly.  If you're using the Hershey's instead of Lindt, then melt only the bars - hold back the cocoa.

Warm the milk in a deep pot or pan over a low heat.   If using Hershey's, add the cocoa to the milk as it warms slowly, whisking repeatedly to keep the cocoa dissolving and keep milk from solidifying on the bottom.    Add half of the heavy cream, and continue slowly whisking over low heat until steaming.

Pour the milk and cream mixture into the pot used for the chocolate, stirring briskly with the whisk.   Use the last of the heavy cream to bring the temperature down from scathing to something your Mistress will enjoy drinking.

Add marshmallows as she pleases.   The marshmallows also do a great job of sweetening if you melt them into the mixture, if the chocolate comes out too dark.

NOTE:

A great addition to this, if your Mistress drinks?   A tiny bit of Chambord.   It's a raspberry liqueur that goes into a drink fairly mellowly.