Unpleasant Rant

I'm sorry.   This rant is going to be confused.   There's a lot of confliction here.  I'm working it out as I type.   I'm not ranting about politics - don't care about politics - this is about the "culture" of some male-sub-peoples. 

Yes, I got into an argument with another boy, at a private event.   It was held by a friend who is a fellow officer, and not exactly liberal - so WishToKneel haz no ideaz how teh otter boy waz invited.  This rant is mostly from the things he said.   But also from some things I've been seeing, that are really making it hard to figure things out for myself. 

And I've been hearing both sides of this kind of thing for a while - but what I hear and what I see are two different things.   And as someone in a profession where observation is the thing - I'm starting to think the culture of a lot of male-sub-dom is skewed more towards the "blind acceptance" side than the "be yourself" side. 

I respect the opinion of a Domme.   I respect your Domme's opinion, as a fellow sub or boy or whatever we are.    I'll even respect your opinion, even if you are being snotty about it.   I'm the type of person who will respect someone period.  But respect is NOT blind acceptance.

I am NOT FemDom (not the way you seemed to define it while you were busy telling me that I'll "never get a Domme"), and I will not change my orientation or my personal beliefs because a dominant female loudly proclaims her "truth".    Or because you trumpet it for her.   

And seriously.   Who says "get a Domme"?    Aren't they supposed to get you?  

I am not the kind of boy to kiss the ground every single female walks on, and parrot whatever beliefs I think will ingratiate me with the latest woman with attractive photos that I've seen.  

But.   Anyway.   Uhm.   (Ranting, right.   Ranting.   Focus on the rant, not the irritation and now apparently questioning your submissive worth.) 

Apparently I'm not a "real sub" or a "real boy" if I'm not a social justice warrior waving the flag of Tumblr or twitter feminism and worshipping any youtube rant any woman ever has made about how worthless I am for being male.    And I'm supposed to hate-flame people like Blaire White, and accept any belief espoused by an attractive FemDom or female Dominant as if it were holy writ.   And God help me if I don't "love" every post by every female ever on my twitter.  (I don't even know why I have one.) 

I had a LOT of issues when I first started here.   Still working through them.   I lost a lot, including my first Domme, because I wasn't the right kind of "boy".   I lost my self respect for a while there, and I'm still finding pieces of it scattered all over.   I have a good partner (work partner, not the other kind) who's lifestyle and helps. 

I don't need your freaking judgement on my worth as a boy.   I don't need your pissyness (and really, what boy or man is happy about being "pissy"?!) because I don't agree with your philosophies and politics, or the politics and edicts of your Domme.

I'm still figuring out who I am, and what I am in this lifestyle.   And how to link that with the other me.

But I know damned well what I am outside of it.   And I'm not the type to just accept someone's views and edicts because they're Dominant.    Or because their Dominant is a Dominant. 
So stop sub-shaming (or boy-shaming?   need a word here, help?) me because I don't have the "right" beliefs to be a "good boy".    Not having a Mistress has nothing to do with my beliefs, politically or ethically.  

And changing your belief system in order to "get" a Mistress?

That sounds like a personal problem.  You should get that looked at. 

Or maybe that's just the culture of male submission in my area. 

If it is?   

Sorry, not sorry.

W2K