Do You Know, What It Feels Like In This World...

For a Male Submissive?   It feels like…

Half of our brothers are horn dog do-me subs that crowd out our questioning voices and make us feel ashamed of who we are inside.

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The other half are either just as lost as we are – or have advice that helps with information, but doesn’t ‘help’ with the fear or the questioning.

Half of the females we meet in the scene look like they immediately attach the “creepy” label to our names when we offer to shake hands.

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The other half are either awkward around us, or have little idea how to just talk to us.  

Half of our families might disown us if they knew.  

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The other half definitely would.

Half of the Dominant women out there are of the mind that humiliation is the only "twue" way to talk to us.    (I already have issues with being submissive – I don’t need the humiliation too.)

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The other half have had such bad experiences with do-me subs that we often vanish into the aether. 

Half of the Pro Dommes and sex workers out there view us as ATMs.  (Not the good ones – but a LOT of the rest)

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The other half are honest about it being a business – but have to weed through so many do-me subs that it’s hard to talk to them. 

Half of society views us as weak.  Or sick.  Or gay (not in a homosexual way…in a dude-bro way).  Or as cuckolds.  Or as failed men.   Or…

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The other half views us as something overly romanticized (whether good or bad) and that makes it hard to be seen as a real person.

Half of the BDSM world feels like it’s made up of the ‘beauteous’ female submissives, and long sonnets about how wonderful they are – while male subs are the creepy ones.

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The other half feels like it’s made up of beautiful female Dommes – and then we feel like we can’t measure up.  

Half the adult videos out there translate “male submissive” into “forced-bi, cuckolding, cross-dressing freaky boy”.  

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The other half show us bleeding.   A lot.  From all kinds of unique impliments.   And body parts.  (and occasionally anally, from very rubbery – or very flesh and cartilage-ey implements).  

Half of the movies out there paint us with the broad brush of being weak, whipped, or cross dressers.

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The other half aren’t in English.   Or from our culture. 

Half of the vanilla women out there would end any relationship that involved us trying to open up about our feelings.

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The other half would get into it “for you”, then find someone else once they find out how much power a female Domme has in the American scene. 

I know it’s not that black and white.   I’m being cynical.  This – this is the lens a lot of us see through.  Especially at the beginning - and those first steps make lasting scars. 

I’m not speaking for all male subs.   I’m not even trying.   Some scene people will talk to us.   Brothers, Dominas, and Dommes – they’re rare, but they are there.   To those who have been there – thank you.  

But Dommes?   As many do-me subs flood your mailbox – I get just as many ‘tribute-me’ emails, and get flooded with just as many ‘go-away’ responses or get just plain ignored. 

We’re people.   We have kinks, we have fetishes – but we’re people.   Yes, there are a lot of do-me types.   We’re not all like that – and defending myself for their behavior is getting old. 

So uhmm, yeah.   That’s what it can feel like to be a male submissive. 

Sucks sometimes, huh?